Hey, Steve Harvey, Who Says I Might Not Steal Your Girl? – Eddie Huang

This blog entry is not Art-related.

How many rounds of approval did this go through? Steve Harvey’s just a comedian right? Yeah. But people will still rely on popular culture to shape popular opinion, something that will probably never go away.

I’m gonna level with you a bit. These Uncle Chan’s in Hollywood helped make this possible. Some recall Long Duck Dong. Growing up I had Bobby Lee. This generation has Dr. Ken. It’s the roles they agree to do that’s had a great hand in making Asian guys a joke in the dating world. They were never laughing with you.

The butt of the joke: Asian males (all 2 billion of us). The point of the joke: The idea that they could possibly be attractive is hilarious. Have a white guy say the same thing about black men dating white women and he would get crucified. So here we are with Fresh Off The Boat author Eddie Huang as the biggest thing going for the Asian American community, and best of all – He’s not an Uncle Chan. Huang responds to Harvey, one who attempts to uplift the black community, doesn’t seem to have a problem perpetuating stereotypes of another community:

That doesn’t mean we give up. Steve goes to the gym; Joe buys every piece of Supreme clothing he can afford; and I’ve got jokes. They’re the cultural modifications we see as antidotes to our issues with masculinity. But no matter how successful I was, how much self-improvement was made, or how aware I was that stereotypes are not facts, there were times I thoroughly believed that no one wanted anything to do with me. I told myself that it was all a lie, but the structural emasculation of Asian men in all forms of media became a self-fulfilling prophecy that produced an actual abhorrence to Asian men in the real world.

That’s why this Steve Harvey episode is so upsetting. He speaks openly about issues facing the black community, he is a man of God, and he has a huge platform to speak from. Unfortunately, he’s also the type of guy who orders Krug champagne for himself and Cook’s for every one else. For his own personal profit, he’s willing to perpetuate the emasculation of Asian men regardless of how hypocritical it is. He isn’t the only one doing this in 2017, but as I told myself on New Year’s, I’m not drinking anymore of this Cook’s they’re trying to pour, and neither should you.

And I no longer believe in yellow fever, or fever of any kind. It’s not a compliment and it’s different from saying one has a preference. Treating any human person like a thing with no personal agency that exists for your gratification is horrific, but so is stomping on normal healthy sexual expressions of desire and appreciation. There’s an uncomfortable line between those things that can be difficult to tread. But still, there I was, sitting across from a white girl, capitalizing off the K-Pop wave that took over the USA in the early 2010’s. I caught one there (lol) but after picking her brain apart I saw it wasn’t anything more than my ethnicity. She wasn’t feeling my rap playlists or my basketballisms. It’s a very shallow attraction, and any Asian guy could’ve probably did it for her. These type of people are out there, with very narrow scopes.

Are you in love with them, or are you in love with the mirage of them?

Everybody deals with their identity their own way. If someone’s not loving their partner for the right reasons, it’ll rear its head eventually, and they’re gonna deal with it. And it’s not my job to be judging all these yellow shorties with white dudes.

It’s been a rough week for Steve Harvey.